Being a Plus-size Woman: Self-esteem, Fashion, and Dating
I was the fat girl in school.
Most people didn't say it to my face, but they did say it. Most of my friends in junior high and high school were plus-size girls as well. We became friends quickly. Not necessarily because we had a lot in common as far as interests and goals, but more so because we were thrown in to the same social category. Primarily because of our bodies.
That's kind of messed up.
We banded together. Whether it was to prevent bullying or to have many targets in one spot we didn't really know, but it made sense to us. It felt nice to finally belong. And to be part of a friendship where we helped one another. As we all learned about each other and ate lunch together, we truly became friends.
It was nice while it lasted.
So, this post is gonna be super vulnerable, as you've already seen.... Please be kind, if you must pass judgment.
- Self-esteem:
I also suffer from depression and anxiety; it's an interesting combination. So, some days I feel like Princess Mia from Princess Diaries.. Specifically, at the beginning when she's getting dressed for school and then says, "Well, as always, this is as good as it's gonna get!"
It sucks, because I overanalyze everything. And, well, I actually don't want to write anything else on this subject.
- Fashion:
This is one aspect of being a plus-size woman that I really like! Plus size affordable fashion can be hard to find. I've always loved thrift stores and anything that's one of a kind. So, with limited resources in regards to clothing I have to be creative. And the best way to do that is through accessories! :D
I don't go by current styles. If I'd been born in the 70's or 80's I'd fit right in! But I like to mix and match things, so I never know what'll happen when I walk over to my closet.
One fun thing? My family and friends have picked up on my style, so now they'll keep their eyes open and let me know if they find something that I might fancy!
- Dating:
This is probably the hardest aspect of being a plus-size woman. At least for me.. and that's largely in part because of current hardships, namely my depression and anxiety.
There are many aspects and effects of dating. It does involve 2 people after all!
A little humor for ya ;)
Here are some thoughts that I previously recorded on this matter... Playing off self-esteem, it is very hard to not blame my dating woes on body-size.
Sometimes I hear girls say (and I also think), "No boy could like me, because of my size!" Which is not true! It's rarely just because of size, so many things play into the dating world. But this is the go-to excuse.
It doesn't help that dating is on the decline. And it seems as though when dating does occur, or even just asking out, it is the most attractive, energetic, and interesting people that go out. Which may or may not be true. However, it seems that that's where the focus seems to be. I have a lot to say a lot about dating..... feel free to read some of my past posts on this subject:
Guest Post: A Date A Week
Asking A Guy Out vs. Waiting To Get Asked Out
A Dating Decline
(Not) A Date A Week
'I'm nothing special!'
Um, excuse me??? Yes, you are!! Your personality is what defines you. NOT your body.
I'm imperfect. And these are simply my thoughts and experiences. Most of my life I've wished that I wasn't a plus-size woman. Even at my healthiest (on my mission) when I was exercising every day, eating well, and sweating in the Arizona sun, I still fell into this category.. I'm 25 and just barely deciding to accept that this is who I am. And this is exactly who I need to be :D
Love,
D. J. Lathrop
If you're also a plus-size woman, what are some of your experiences?
P.S. Thanks to https://www.curvy.com.au/blog/inspirational-quotes-plus-size-women and Pinterest for the pictures! :D
Most people didn't say it to my face, but they did say it. Most of my friends in junior high and high school were plus-size girls as well. We became friends quickly. Not necessarily because we had a lot in common as far as interests and goals, but more so because we were thrown in to the same social category. Primarily because of our bodies.
That's kind of messed up.
We banded together. Whether it was to prevent bullying or to have many targets in one spot we didn't really know, but it made sense to us. It felt nice to finally belong. And to be part of a friendship where we helped one another. As we all learned about each other and ate lunch together, we truly became friends.
It was nice while it lasted.
So, this post is gonna be super vulnerable, as you've already seen.... Please be kind, if you must pass judgment.
- Self-esteem:
I also suffer from depression and anxiety; it's an interesting combination. So, some days I feel like Princess Mia from Princess Diaries.. Specifically, at the beginning when she's getting dressed for school and then says, "Well, as always, this is as good as it's gonna get!"
It sucks, because I overanalyze everything. And, well, I actually don't want to write anything else on this subject.
- Fashion:
This is one aspect of being a plus-size woman that I really like! Plus size affordable fashion can be hard to find. I've always loved thrift stores and anything that's one of a kind. So, with limited resources in regards to clothing I have to be creative. And the best way to do that is through accessories! :D
I don't go by current styles. If I'd been born in the 70's or 80's I'd fit right in! But I like to mix and match things, so I never know what'll happen when I walk over to my closet.
One fun thing? My family and friends have picked up on my style, so now they'll keep their eyes open and let me know if they find something that I might fancy!
This is probably the hardest aspect of being a plus-size woman. At least for me.. and that's largely in part because of current hardships, namely my depression and anxiety.
There are many aspects and effects of dating. It does involve 2 people after all!
A little humor for ya ;)
Here are some thoughts that I previously recorded on this matter... Playing off self-esteem, it is very hard to not blame my dating woes on body-size.
Sometimes I hear girls say (and I also think), "No boy could like me, because of my size!" Which is not true! It's rarely just because of size, so many things play into the dating world. But this is the go-to excuse.
It doesn't help that dating is on the decline. And it seems as though when dating does occur, or even just asking out, it is the most attractive, energetic, and interesting people that go out. Which may or may not be true. However, it seems that that's where the focus seems to be. I have a lot to say a lot about dating..... feel free to read some of my past posts on this subject:
Guest Post: A Date A Week
Asking A Guy Out vs. Waiting To Get Asked Out
A Dating Decline
(Not) A Date A Week
'I'm nothing special!'
Um, excuse me??? Yes, you are!! Your personality is what defines you. NOT your body.
I'm imperfect. And these are simply my thoughts and experiences. Most of my life I've wished that I wasn't a plus-size woman. Even at my healthiest (on my mission) when I was exercising every day, eating well, and sweating in the Arizona sun, I still fell into this category.. I'm 25 and just barely deciding to accept that this is who I am. And this is exactly who I need to be :D
Love,
D. J. Lathrop
If you're also a plus-size woman, what are some of your experiences?
P.S. Thanks to https://www.curvy.com.au/blog/inspirational-quotes-plus-size-women and Pinterest for the pictures! :D
Comments
Post a Comment
Hey, I would love to hear your thoughts!
Thank you so much for your support in this adventure called life!